[ PDF / Epub ] ☉ I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality Author Jerold J. Kreisman – Sigilo.us

[ PDF / Epub ] ☉ I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality Author Jerold J. Kreisman – Sigilo.us
  • Paperback
  • 288 pages
  • I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality
  • Jerold J. Kreisman
  • English
  • 08 July 2019
  • 9780399536212

I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline PersonalityAm I Losing My Mind People With Borderline Personality Disorder BPD Experience Such Violent And Frightening Mood Swings That They Often Fear For Their Sanity They Can Be Euphoric One Moment, Despairing And Depressed The Next There Are An Estimated 18 Million Sufferers Of BPD Living In America Today Each Displaying Remarkably Similar Symptoms A Shaky Sense Of Identity Sudden Outbursts Of Anger Oversensitivity To Real Or Imagined Rejection Brief, Turbulent Love Affairs Intense Feelings Of Emptiness Eating Disorders, Drug Abuse, And Other Self Destructive Tendencies An Irrational Fear Of Abandonment And An Inability To Be Alone For Years BPD Was Difficult To Describe, Diagnose, And Treat But With This Classic Guide, Dr Jerold J Kreisman And Health Writer Hal Straus Offer Much Needed Professional Advice, Helping Victims And Their Families Understand And Cope With This Troubling, Shockingly Widespread Affliction This Completely Revised And Updated Edition Includes Information On The Most Up To Date Research That Has Opened Doors To The Neurobiological, Genetic, And Developmental Roots Of The Disorder, As Well As The Connections Between BPD And Substance Abuse, Sexual Abuse, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, ADHD, And Eating Disorders, Making It A Vital Reference For Understanding And Living With BPD.

Jerold Kreisman, M.D., is a psychiatrist and best selling author His books, I Hate You, Don t Leave Me, and Sometimes I Act Crazy have been translated into several languages around the world He is an Associate Clinical Professor at St Louis University and has been designated a Distinguished Life Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association He has lectured widely in both this country and abr

10 thoughts on “I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality

  1. says:

    To sum things up Borderline personality disorder BPD is a serious mental illness marked by unstable moods, behavior, and relationships, It is one of the most common of all of the personality disorders Most people who have BPD suffer from Problems with regulating emotions and thoughts Impulsive and reckless behavior Unstable relationships with other peopleWomen with BPD are likely to have co occurring disorders such as major depression, anxiety disorders, or eating disorders In men, BPD is likely to co occur with disorders such as substance abuse or antisocial personality disorder A borderline suffers a kind of emotional hemophilia they are provoked to rage uncontrollably against the people they love most They feel helpless and empty, with an identity splintered by severe emotional contradictions Mood changes come swiftly, explosively, carrying the borderline from the heights of joy to the depths of depression Filled with anger one hour, calm the next Everything looked and sounded unreal Nothing was what it is That s what I wanted to be alone with myself in another world where truth is untrue and life can hide from itself From Long Day s Journey into Night, by Eugene O Neill The family background of a borderline is often marked by alcoholism, depression, and emotional disturbances A borderline childhood is frequently a desolate battlefield, scarred with the debris of indifferent, rejecting, or absent parents, emotional de...

  2. says:

    I may be in the minority here, but I hate this book Its stance on those who deal with BPD is far from empathetic rather, it perpetuates this myth that all people with BPD are ridiculous and borderline dangerous individuals wh...

  3. says:

    This book is terribly outdated It lists homosexuality as sexual deviation, and was published before the advent of SSRIs It also predates the current treatment for borderline personality disorder, Dialetical Behavioral Therapy Don t bother reading this.

  4. says:

    This book uses astonishingly stigmatizing language It uses phrases like, The borderline does this and The bordline feels this throughout It s the same kind of language that, for example, old school anthropological studies ethnographies tend to use it renders the borderline as both a monolithic type and as other It is insulting to presume that all people with this diagnosis are the same Borderline was originally a diagnosis for people, nearly all women, who sought mental health care but didn t get better The mental health establi...

  5. says:

    Is this book in dire need of an update Yes Published in 1989, it is about time for a re haul or at the very least a new introduction Further, whether it was published in the 1980 s or now, it lacks a feminist analysis which in turn normalizes violence and in particular intimate partner violence and heterosexist stereotypes about women and men s behaviors and emotions This absence proves dangerous for both individuals suffering from BPD and their family members The authors propose generalized origins about BPD based on heterosexist notions about gender Also, in one of the case studies, the authors describe a patient has provoking her husband into hitting her Utilizing language like that to describe a patient s guilt, placing the responsibility of violence on the victim survivor rather than the abuser Rather than exploring how BPD patients self destructive behaviors and possible histories of past physical abuse lead them to stay in abusive relationships, the authors circumvent those aspects with sentences like provoking violence and focus on substance abuse Both are equally important Also, the only case study that mentions race, devalues the patient s experiences I think it is imp...

  6. says:

    This book does nothing to convince me that the diagnosis of BPD is coherent or particularly useful As always, case stories that neatly dovetail with the author s point of view are included, but I found the inclusion of gratuitous diagnosis of famous and usually beautiful women as BPD to be highly distasteful Both Marilyn Monroe and Princess Diana are dissected I can see the appeal of fantasizing about offering therapy to such women, but working out those fantasies in book form is in questionable taste Similarly, his tendency to blame progressive social structures for women s confusion about their identities is a marker of his own politics than of causal factors for BPD, as is his frequent use of words like harridan and harpy to describe his female patients.His Freudian bent is made clearer by his reliance on Christopher Lasch s Culture of Narcissism, a text in which Lasch expressed his belief that modern child raising had interfered with the natural attachment of mother and child, necessary, in his mind, for a healthy culture All case studies are cherry picked and presented in the light that the therapist chooses, and the presentation of this particular narrative is no different Kriesman s perhaps unconscious racism is revealed in the story of Annette, an African American woman whose BPD makes her too sensitive to perceived racist slights at her place of work The solution is provided by the nice, white male Jewish co worker who she so sadly misunderstood and ends,...

  7. says:

    This book is about people with Borderline Personality Disorder BPD , who experience violent mood swings, which interfere with their leading a normal life The symptoms are A shaky sense of identity, Sudden violent outbursts, Severe mood shifts, Oversensitivity to real or imagined rejection, Brief, turbulent love affairs, Frequent periods of intense depression, Eating disorders, drug or alcohol abuse, and other self destructive tendencies, An irrational fear of abandonment and an inability to be alone, Chronic feelings of emptiness or boredom, Unstable and intense interpersonal relationships, Frequent and inappropriate displays of anger detail on pp 27 41 The authors claim that someone with four or five of these symptoms would be classified as a person with BPD I thought it was an excellent book and it tied in nicely to Becoming Attached The authors mention, in several places, the connection between insecure anxious attachment and BPD I ...

  8. says:

    As a mental health professional, I can say that I found this book to be among the best written to help a person better understand their spouse, friend, parent, sibling, etc who is suffering with Borderline Personality Disorder It helps the reader to understand how one ...

  9. says:

    While some of the information given by the book can be useful I have stopped reading at 15 20% of it as i couldn t stand the patronizing tone and the way they say borderlines do things as if they wanted to instead of sometimes being just an acquired answer Yes, I know we can somehow learn how to deal with things and control the answer to a degree, but it doesn t always work and it is not as if the borderlines want to or enjoy ...

  10. says:

    4.5 stars While in dire need of an update, this book gives a multitude of case studies of fictitious people who are dealing with borderline personality disorder Many of the other reviews for this book who suffer from BPD said it made them out to negative people and one person actually said something to the effect of the book making her want to slit her throat and made a sarcastic joke about how borderline that made her In my opinion, as a diagnosed borderline myself, I feel that her completely negative review with not one positive thing to say is the trait that most indicates the BPD So the case studies usually start out each chapter and section and then possible reasons in a person s history or upbringing for these traits are given It touches on nature vs nurture, past trauma, abuse victims, and other possible causes I personally felt that anyone with BPD could find something to which they can relate The reviewer I wrote about above also said something about feeling that the book made borderlines out to be horrible people or something of the like In my opinion, the book depicts various traits and symptoms of this affliction the book is about a disorder characterized b...

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